Girls Nagging VS Boys Moaning

Good day friends. Today I’m going to tell you about “nagging versus moaning”.
Are you going crazy with your opposite sex because both of you never in the same way of thinking? Boy, are you feel annoy with girl’s nags? Girls, are you feel annoy with boys behavior?

I’d like to tell you that we’re all in the same trouble to understand how boys/girls behave. Now, let us start to enjoy the difference between boy and girls’ behavior of girls’ nagging and boys’ moaning.
I’m assuming that none of you satisfied with a quarrel between your boyfriend and girlfriend just because your boyfriend was late to pick you up or your girlfriend was just too talkative about your attitude. I’d like to tell you that we have to understand about why boys/girls behave like what we are thinking now and how to handle these problems.

First of all, I’m so concerned about this because I’ve ever felt the same just like you and I had trouble when I didn’t find the answers.

Women’s nagging versus men’s moaning often makes the problem. First, I’m going to explain this condition. Nagging is a term used almost exclusively by men to describe women when women reminding the males in their lives to do things that must be done: taking medication, picking up their mess, making all papers and reports done, etc. Some nagging is considered constructive, for example: your girlfriend is reminding you to stop smoking, of course, this nagging help keeping you alive. Beside, moaning is an attitude commenting on certain things which do not fit with men’s way of thinking. For example: men are commenting on his girlfriend’s appearance or men are commenting on the cleanness of the room.

Women feel that nagging shows that they care, but man rarely sees it in the same light. The nagger always hopes their victim will be motivated into some positive action by being made to feel guilty. But, the worst problem is the more women nags, the more isolated she becomes and it makes the men turn into the victims. Why? When nagging gets out of hand, the naggers’ relationship with others can really suffer. Men may ignore her even more irritated her. Then she may end up feeling alone and may become resentful and miserable. Is it right? And, the more the women nag, the more the victim retreats behind the kind of defensive barriers that drive the nagger crazy. The only real outcome from nagging is the destruction of the relationship between the nagger and the victim because the victim feels he has to continually defend himself.

Why nagging never works? The main reason is that nagging has the built-in expectations of failure. While naggers hope their words will push their victims into action, they often expect them to fail or they invite a negative response. Women will nags instead of saying their requests directly.
I have shown you that nagging vs. moaning is bad and raise a lot of problem on your relationship. So, what are the best solutions to overcome these problems?

First, for girls, saying what you mean. Yes, saying what you mean directly to boys, because you need to understand that male brain function is comparatively simple and men can rarely guess what women and partners really mean beyond the actual words they’ve uttered. Once both sexes have realized this, it makes communication much simpler, and removes the need for much of the nagging that takes place.

Second, girls, saying how you feel. When you let him know that you don’t think he will make good decisions, he feels he is a failure and can never meet your standards. Instead, he shuts off. Then, get your message across to him. He will understand and wants you to discuss with him about what you’re talking about.

Third, use the “Me” ”I” technique to get the boy understand. If you want to complaint something, tell him about your problem, but never complaint him with always saying “you”, because it will make him defense to you. The “Me” ”I” technique is powerful because it reduces defensiveness, increases honesty and clarifies everyone’s feeling.

For boys, I would like to tell you how to understand a nagger. If a victim is honest with himself and admits the elements of truth in the nagging and recognizes that nagging is usually a cry of recognition, he could quickly turn the situation into a win-win solution. Because the basis of nagging is truth, the victim must accept equal responsibility for nagging.

Now, you can see and realize that the only key of better communication rather than nagging and quarreling each other, is saying what you mean. None of us wants to get quarrel every time right? Or make the relationship get worse. So, we should start to overcome this problem by some simple ways. And, if you do these, your relationship will get better. Ok? Good luck! :)

Comparison Speech Text

Good afternoon, my dear friends. This afternoon, I’m going to share my experience of being a volunteer in UK in the Projects’ Abroad Ltd, especially the difference between volunteering in Indonesia and U.K.
In the U.K, there is a volunteering organization which concerns to help people in poor countries. They help to create local employment wherever they send volunteers. The founder, Dr. peter Slowe explained in the annual report on 2007 that last year, they made a major achievement and they channeled into less developed countries the energy, skills and commitment of some 3,500 volunteers, they reached over £3,000,000, doubled by the amount that volunteers spend personally while they are abroad.
First, I’m going to explain the how this organization works. This organization help volunteers in handling the accommodation to their country destination. So, they arrange prices how much the volunteer should pay for their trip and safety in the country destination. However, by paying this administration matter, the volunteer can also helps to develop the volunteering program.
Second, the reasons why there are so many volunteers want to do this project. Being a volunteer outside the country is not easy as it seems. They have to make a great effort before they can help other people in outside their country. Even though they have to pay high for their accommodation, but they still have spirit to help people. Their spirit is more than the native citizen of their destination country; they are more concern than them. Their projects mostly are in education and health field. They help kids to learn English and some basic knowledge like math and reading. They also share how to make a good and healthy living in limited condition of the poor people.
While in Indonesia, there is no such kind of organization which concerns to send volunteers abroad. We are lack of volunteering organization. There are some, which concerns to poor people and kids in Indonesia, but those organizations do not really work as a non-profit organization. Some of them, they just work for receiving fund from the government, but this fund never been realized to help people. Beside, there are only limited people who are really concern about poor people and unlucky people/kids.
Next, almost nobody do not interesting in volunteering program in our country, moreover going abroad to help people in Africa perhaps. It is hard to help people here, the question that might come up to most of us is : why should we help people in Africa if our country is as worst as there? We can not even help our society, so it would be useless to help people outside Indonesia. In fact, there are still few people who concerns about helping people, who established few volunteering organizations.
Generally speaking, I just want to tell you that we should feel ashamed with people outside Indonesia, if we have not been a volunteer yet to help our society. Thank you for your attention.

My Motivational Speech

Good Day, ladies and gentlemen, my speech today is not simply about me, but also about being different. I have chosen this topic because it is something that is very dear to me and something I have made a personal philosophy and which I endeavor to live by.
THE WALK
I think it all started when I was 18 years old and in my first year at campus. That was about the time that I started to observe people’s behavior and just to think about life. In that time, I just feel inferior. I just thought that I was useless. It was a real different situation with my past life. But, something changed me. The environment could change me, the people, the interaction. By the time, I found the real me. Now, I can feel the difference between me and others. I could be just my self.
So, WHAT DOES BEING DIFFERENT MEAN?
Being different means: - Not being afraid to challenge the norm. - Being willing to take a chance. - Asking why. - Making your own track, not just following the well trodden path. - Charting your own course and destiny. - Being the person that you were meant to be.
I believe that everyone is born unique. But through the years we work very hard to be like everyone else. We conform to society’s so-called “common-sense.” Unfortunately it is just that – “common sense.” That does not mean its “good sense.”
I remember wisdom from someone, If you want to get what everyone is getting, do what everyone is doing. I mean, just imitate what everyone is doing when you want to be better like him, or even better than him!
THE FOLLY OF EDUCATION
If I were to take just the people in this room, it is likely that most of you have spent anything from 15 to 20 years getting an education so you can get the jobs you have. Doesn’t it strike you as irresponsible that one can spend so much time getting an education and yet so many people don’t make any deliberate effort to develop their greatest asset – themselves!
Most of us won’t even read unless there’s an exam in sight. But you know what? Everyday of your life is an exam. Everyday you either pass or fail the test of life. Everyday is an opportunity to grow beyond your present barriers and circumstances. Everyday is a chance to become a better person.
The saddest part is most of people don’t realize this. If they had to be graded at the end of their lives you know what they’d get? D, D and more D’s. And yet they thought they were doing very well. They let society’s “common sense” grade them.
MY ADVICE
If I can leave you with one piece of advice it would be this: READ
Read books and explore yourselves! Doing that one thing regularly will put you way above the rest. Read books that challenge you and that make you think.
I have decided to read at least one book every month. I’m already amazed at the results.
MY FINAL WORDS
In closing I’d like to say to those of you that are skeptics out there, those of you that are saying “oh, he is just drink with the omnipotence of youth. He’ll get over it, and then he’ll be just like everyone else.”
My words to you are: “I ain’t going out like that. I know that I have an abundance of potential within me and I will bring it out to fruition. Why?” “Because…I’M DIFFERENT!”

My Second Day on the Leadership Conference "High Ropes"

On the August 2008, Cung and I have joined the Leadership Conference in Prigen, Pasuruan, for about nine days. We were in the same team and experienced so many interesting things there. On the second day, my team had outbound. First game was “giving the ball”. The rule was that everybody had to throw the ball while saying each other’s name. There were 16 people of us who played this game and did it for about 27 seconds. This game required us to consider some basic principles, as for example, focusing and concentrating on the goals, having a solid team working, and understanding each other’s capacity. of each member, self awareness, and having commitment to the agreement.

We used a rope a lot during the second game. It was quite interesting. For the two first rope activities, I didn’t have any difficulties, but in the “Tarzan’s” rope, I had some difficulties to make myself to jump over the rope like Tarzan. It took me about a few minutes before I had gained my confidence back to act like a jumping Tarzan. In fact, I could not do it well, and certainly that made me completely embarrassed. On the next ropes, I could do it almost perfectly, and I enjoyed riding “Flying Fox”. It was such an interesting game that I could not help shouting at everybody, expressing my deepest happiness for being able to pass all ropes. This game aimed at motivating and encouraging you to believe in yourself.

Third activity was “trees fall”. Oh my Gee, What a game it was that I hate and I promise not to do it again. Once, I did it in PWEC, now I did it here. I rejected Chung’s idea, and frankly speaking I almost started to cry at that time. I did not care when so many people looked at me and started to think that I was childish. Finally, I did it but badly. Actually, there were some values on this game. First, everybody have strength and weaknesses, if you felt like to fall, just let yourself fall, because if not, you will bother others. Be brave and just do it, analyze the problem inside yourself when you want to do something and do not feel scared.

The fourth activity was called “Tarantula”, a game that demanded all participants to carefully move a chair with water placed on it to certain spots by means of a rope. The objective of this game was basically to teach everybody to understand others’ ability and to do a careful analysis on the problem. The strategy was to take responsibility on your part. Fifth activity was “war game”. The rules of the game were like this, you had a president to command, soldiers as much as you have, and two people were to be the prisoners. 21 The soldiers had responsibility to save the prisoners by crossing the field that full of bomb with closing his eyes and bring back the prisoners. 22 The values were, first, analyze the goal and strategy, trust your friend to lead your way, focus on goal and instruction, delegate others, and the order must be clear and measurable.
Sixth activity was “crossing the bamboo on the surface of water”. Then the seventh activity was “spider web”. In this game, Uni Icha was the first person to enter the rope, while I was the last girl to enter in because I was the smallest girl. The strategies that we used were: think others and everyone’s ability, and trust your team.

Eight activities was “Pingpong game”. We delivered a tiny ball called “pingpong” with the half parts of bamboo. It needed patience to do it until our destiny. Ninth activity was “holed pipe”. We had to fill the pipe with water until the ball comes out. In this game, none of us could do that. It failed because the holes in the pipe were so many and it made the water always comes out. Tenth activity was sharing session about what our strength and weakness in other’s point of view. It was really works to know our character deeply and could be our reflection. After that we draw a plant that represent ourselves, wrote our strengths and weaknesses in paper and stick it on the part of our plant that represented us.

Those activities really made us close to each other and become one family, even if only that day. I was so happy to pass all the games with my best. I hope I will be able to see my friends in this conference someday and to do useful activities for our society.

Abyor Dance

Abyor dance is a traditional dance that comes from Tulungagung, East Java-Indonesia. This dance was not difficult to do, because it is a modern-traditional dance, not pure traditional like “Remo” dance. Abyor dance is used to be performed by young girls. Abyor itself means glamorous in English, that’s why girls who perform it always wear blink-blink accessories and long-beautiful-traditional dresses. Abyor dance is unique and simple, but meaningful. Abyor dance represent the life of Javanese girls who lived in modern world but still respect her tradition. Its motions reflect the beauties of smart girls and the gentleness of Javanese girls. There are motions that moving around the wrists, moving head to the left and right side like a doll, throwing the blink-blink shawls, all show the beauties of girls. It is supported with the costume also. They usually wear a long-batik skirt (batik is traditional clothes of Indonesia) or a long beautiful traditional skirt which is called sarung; a kind of short tank-top which is called kemben with two pieces of band on each shoulder; and accessories on the neck, bracelets, and traditional flower crown (but, they usually wear flowers made from plastic when perform). This dance usually is performed on the traditional-art exhibitions, art perform on schools, traditional dance competitions, wedding receptions, welcoming dance, etc. Abyor dance can be performed on any occasions. That is why, it is a good choice to have a good performance in many special occasions.